this is a good read, it’s a long entry but here are some few points to ponder on.

You know what our monstrous mistake is?
We try to fix the people in our life.

First of all, you want to fix people because you love them.
But sometimes, our motives aren’t pure. Sometimes, we want to fix our loved ones because of shame. We’re ashamed of what other people will say about our kids, our siblings, our spouses, and our parents.
Another reason of our “fixing other people” tendencies is we’re afflicted with the disease called comparisonities.

Humans like to look to the other side of the fence to see if it’s greener.

If you’re not going to fix people, what should you do?
Appreciate them.

Remember: Every strength has a weakness.

My friend Jon Escoto says that “a weakness is really a strength applied inappropriately.” (As another friend loves to say, “You’re right in the wrong way!”) You can’t have only one side of the coin. You have to have both.

Stop Trying To Fix People
Two reasons why you need to stop fixing people.
First, you can’t.
Second, I’ve realized that people are like old houses. If one thing gets fixed, another thing gets broken.

Two Levels Of Acceptance
The first level of acceptance is tolerance.
The second level is appreciation.

Are You A Judge Or A Painter?
It was Dr. James Dobson who said that before you get married, you should have both eyes wide open. But after the marriage ceremony, close one eye.

What does he mean? Before you get married, you should be very careful in evaluating your future spouse. Check everything. Values. Background. Preferences. Reactions. Beliefs. Examine everything!
But when you get married, stop evaluating. Stop critiquing.
It’s now time to stop fixing the other person and start appreciating the entire person in his totality.
Remove the robes of the courtroom judge. Instead, put on the robes of a painter capturing the beauty of a scene. An artist simply accepts what is and nurtures a gratitude for what is there.

YOU CAN NEVER FIX ANYONE
BECAUSE FIXING IS AN INSIDE JOB. NEVER FORCE FROM THE OUTSIDE.

Stop Trying To Fix People Excerpts - Bo Sanchez